modest is hottest. or, as i mockingly like to say, modesty is hottesty. Actually, no. modest is not hottest. Because the word "HOT" and the word "MODEST" do not even belong on the same intergalactic playing field. According to Urban Dictionary, HOT by definition is equivalent to SEXY. MODEST by definition means having regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, and dress. When i think of the word sexy, or a person who would be described as sexy, i don't think of the words decent or modest in the same thought stream. I understand the statement that people are trying to make when they say "Modest is hottest" but I hate to break it to you turtle neck aficionados; that saying is completely false.
I have never liked the word hott. at least when it is used toward a female. My pizza rolls do not exactly have the same reservations towards the word. when a male uses the word hot or sexy toward a female; generally he is talking in a derogatory description toward either her boobs or butt or both depending on the curvature of the female. The male is in no way describing the beauty of the females smile or hair or eye color.
if you feel like this is hard to follow, its 2:40 in the morning, so it probably is.
Whats my point?
First, let me go on another rambling rampage featuring an irate female who is quite disappointed in her gender group.
modest is not hottest. being the hottest is not important, however, being modest is.
being modest will not make you ugly.
being modest does not mean you have to wear long sleeved turtle necks on the reg.
being modest does not mean you have to hide any of your beauty
(unless by beauty you mean your cleavage, in which case, please spare us all the show)
being modest simply means you are respecting yourself and looking out for your brothers in Christ.
your body is a temple; Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20temples are treated with respect and dignity and the highest appraisal.
booty shorts that cover about as much as a belt do not exactly scream dignity or respect or anything besides please look at my butt cheeks at your earliest convenience.
second of all, we are called to protect our brothers in Christ.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28lets recap for a minute. y'all remember the ten commandments? Moses? Mount Sinai? Stone tablets? big deal, okay? do not murder, do not steal, do not lie, etc. anywhos; do not commit adultery is one of the ten commandments. If the way we dress is causing one of our brothers in Christ to look at us lustfully, God considers that just as bad as if he had committed adultery.
We are responsible for the first glance.
and we know how to draw the first glance.
but guys should be able to control themselves right? of course they should. A guy is responsible for the second glance and thereafter. He has the choice to look away. But why would you want to dress in a way that forces men to look away so they are not sinning in their hearts?
girls, that's on us. God says that he will hold us accountable if we are causing our brothers in Christ to stumble.
I totally can vouch for the internal conflict of wanting to wear something that seems innocent enough, but I secretly know will draw attention. what girl doesn't want attention from a guy? but ladies, please, that is not the kind of attention you want from guys. If you are offering your body for the whole world to see, that is what you become. a body. and that's all well and good if that's what you are after. Except there is this thing called age, and our once beautiful bodies will one day get pudgy and saggy and wrinkly. and if our body was the only thing we had going for ourselves, well, then we are plum out of luck.
Dressing modestly does not prohibit men from seeing our beauty. its not like putting a paper bag over our head and spraying pepper spray at anything with male genitalia.
it does the exact opposite.
dressing modestly keeps men from making you an object, and diverts the attention to the areas that are important. your sense of humor, your character, your beautiful smile, your crinkly eyes.
am I making any sense?
or do i sound worse than your mother when you wanted to buy your first bikini?
listen, there is no cut and dry criteria for how to dress modestly. but, from what i have observed, most girls could do to burn their entire wardrobe.
i don't know, I am no Mother Teresa, but i just wish girls could see that wearing practically nothing does not make them worth something more.
conclusion: modest is NOT hottest. Modesty is worth so so much more. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:3-4
